You are their Hero

It’s a funny thing, our children are truly the product of our own habits and behaviors.  We are their example to society and how they grow into adulthood.  My children range from the ages of four months to nine years, big difference when it comes to personalities for all of them.  I have noticed some traits that have been picked up that have really made me change how I deal with my children.  Even when I was teaching I noticed how children would respond based on my reaction to the situation that was placed in front of me.

Children are so resilient compared to us adults, thank goodness for that too.  For example children learn and adapt quicker which is why the experts say to intervene now and teach them the right way to act.  Sometimes I have to really catch myself on how to respond to a situation so I can better help my child than give into my frustration, which can really be a challenge when you are already at your breaking point.  We as Parents can have bad habits some we need to break when we have children, like curse words or shutting your child out.  This does your child no good and ends up putting up a wall between you and your child.

When I got pregnant for the first time I was told by many wise ladies to not befriend my children but to parent them.  This is so true, I am not my children’s best friend, I am their mother.  As their mother I love them unconditionally and protect them with all I have.  It is my job to teach them to grow into respectful well-mannered adults.  It’s not the school’s job, the grandparents’ job, or anyone else’s job either.  It’s okay to hurt your child’s feelings by disciplining them or getting on to them when they have done something wrong.  They need that structured environment to thrive, they need boundaries to feel safe and secure.  Always remember you are their superhero, you are their role model in life.

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There are going to be times where you think you know a woman and times where it seems like you are back at square one.  Women can be very complex and should be treated as such.  There are many factors that can contribute to a woman’s mood that day.  Everyone has their bad days and their good days but we all express how we feel differently.  As a male you have your outlets and so do women.
Women have a need for comfort and a need for love.  It is what drives us, it gives us security when we have both, especially when it comes from our special man in our lives.  There are many different love languages that can be attributed to helping you and the woman you care about connect.  You have to be able to get to know your lover, spouse, or partner.
There are five love languages that can help you and your spouse grow in your relationship. Even if you aren’t in a relationship yet some of these languages can still apply.  There is the love language of touch.  Physical touch is very important.  Most men and women have a sexual relationship, which is a good foundation to establish.  This is an important aspect of a relationship that should be maintained.  It is important that communication is just as strong as your physical relationship. Both of you need to communicate each others needs to one another.  A woman is more interested in the bond and the connection she has with you, not just the physical contact.  That is crucial and really helps build her trust in you.
There is also the love language of giving gifts.  Can’t deny every woman loves receiving gifts from their sweetheart.  It comes with the territory when in a relationship.  It also helps keep the spontaneity in the relationship.  Surprising her once in a while will give her a boost of confidence and self-worth.  This is an act of love that you could show when she is having a bad day.  Knowing your partner is important in all of the love languages, applying all of them can help you build upon and create a good foundation for your relationship.  Figuring out which love language is hers is really important.  It is also good if she connects with yours as well.  That will help you both learn each other and will help you two grow together.
Spending quality time together is a big love language.  It is one that I would apply to any relationship.  You want to grow together and not apart.  In your relationship it is important that you learn to apply some of your partner’s hobbies into your life as she does some of yours.  Share time together even if it is to take a walk in the park or a boat ride on the lake.  Finding time for each other helps you build and connect in the relationship.  You will learn new and amazing things about your partner as you try new things her.
There is the acts of service.  This is where you offer to do something for your spouse like cleaning the kitchen or cooking dinner.  Offering her to rest while you take over shows her in action of how you feel of her well-being.  That gives her a warm-safe feeling that makes her feel secure.  She knows you care for her and that you are there for her.  This one is also important even if it isn’t your love language or hers it still helps you build in the relationship and teaches you both to work together.
The last one is words of affirmation.  This is where you use words like “I love you”, “you are so beautiful”, and “You are amazing.” Words like that are encouraging or uplifting and gives her a confidence boost and makes her feel good about herself and the relationship.  It is important to a woman to know what her partner is feeling.  It is really hard when men don’t express themselves or talk about how they feel to us women.  Communication is crucial to a relationship.  It can’t survive without both partners communicating between each other.
In conclusion all of these love languages should be applied to your relationship even if they aren’t your love language.  It is important to use them to help you both grow together.  This will help you two build and learn to listen to each other.  Every woman and man is different.  You want to make sure you make the best of the relationship.  Applying these to your relationship helps you grow and learn new things about your partner you didn’t know before.  Give them a try and see for yourself.