It’s a funny thing, our children are truly the product of our own habits and behaviors. We are their example to society and how they grow into adulthood. My children range from the ages of four months to nine years, big difference when it comes to personalities for all of them. I have noticed some traits that have been picked up that have really made me change how I deal with my children. Even when I was teaching I noticed how children would respond based on my reaction to the situation that was placed in front of me.
Children are so resilient compared to us adults, thank goodness for that too. For example children learn and adapt quicker which is why the experts say to intervene now and teach them the right way to act. Sometimes I have to really catch myself on how to respond to a situation so I can better help my child than give into my frustration, which can really be a challenge when you are already at your breaking point. We as Parents can have bad habits some we need to break when we have children, like curse words or shutting your child out. This does your child no good and ends up putting up a wall between you and your child.
When I got pregnant for the first time I was told by many wise ladies to not befriend my children but to parent them. This is so true, I am not my children’s best friend, I am their mother. As their mother I love them unconditionally and protect them with all I have. It is my job to teach them to grow into respectful well-mannered adults. It’s not the school’s job, the grandparents’ job, or anyone else’s job either. It’s okay to hurt your child’s feelings by disciplining them or getting on to them when they have done something wrong. They need that structured environment to thrive, they need boundaries to feel safe and secure. Always remember you are their superhero, you are their role model in life.