Being a parent can be very difficult especially if you add autism to the mix. For me that is a challenge, one I am not too fond of. Today I find out if my third son is on the spectrum, which in a Way makes me nervous. If he is diagnosed that will make it three for three. I have five kids, three boys and two girls. None of my boys have escaped the burden of autism so far and the first screening we had with our last was not good at all.
It is so discouraging at times to watch my sons struggle everyday. My nine year old struggles the most and it just breaks my heart. Knowing that he gets bullied at school doesn’t help at all either. It is definitely a hard transition for my babies when it comes to interacting with their peers, strangers, or other social experiences. It’s sad to watch them get overwhelmed when I take them out into the store knowing many are probably viewing him as a bad kid and not one that needs comfort and understanding.
My goal here is to help bring awareness for Autism. So many don’t understand it!!! I hate when people say ‘they don’t look autistic’, well no duh, Autism is so much more involved. Every child, adult, person is different on the spectrum. First ask questions, do research but don’t judge. Until you know the struggle and heartache just pray and be more understanding. Also feel free to check out my website, The Family Way
Last night me and Billy had a movie night at the house. It’s a tradition when the kids go to sleep that we spend time with each other either playing board games, talking, Bible Study, or even Movie Nights. We decided on Escape Plan!! Such a great movie, it really had my mind going. Scary thought that their are people who could possibly be that smart savvy to figure out how to break out of every prison built by man. It was definitely interesting and I do recommend it for a date night for couples! Not recommended for kids though! Hope everyone is having a great day. Here is the trailer below!
The other night I posted a blog relating to spending time with your little ones by having a movie night! Well now I am going to touch base on making time for your spouse. It is important to focus on your spouse even when you have kids. Trust me I know it can be difficult especially if you aren’t used to multi-tasking and don’t have any time management skills. What I do is normally send the kids to bed at their normal bedtime which is between 8-8:30. Once they are in bed me and my husband talk about movie options, we make sure we have snacks available to enjoy as we watch the movie also. Normally we pick a movie we both like but there are times we also take turns of who gets to pick the movie next.
This is a great way to bond with your spouse. I call it our date night and it works, at least for us. Sometimes we will even play board games, write together, even just sit down and talk and eat together. It is important to make time with your spouse and the evenings are a great chance to do that. For our schedule it definitely works but I understand that everyone is different and may have unusual work schedules.
It is healthy in a marriage to make sure you are connecting with your spouse. I am sad to say I have witnessed so many divorces over the last eleven years that me and my husband have been married. Most of them only lasting between two to four years. It has been a mission that I have been trying to pursue since I have noticed the drastic incline of divorce rates since we got married. Another factor I would encourage to help with growing a healthy marriage is communication. Make sure you and your spouse are talking to each other, it helps build a much stronger bond between the two of you and you start to understand your partner much better than before. Hope these little tid-bits help.
The last two weeks have been quite funny, especially because it seems like everywhere you look kids are so caught up with their electronics. The first week of July our internet went out and I have got to say hands down my kids’ reaction was priceless. They didn’t know how to react. It was a shock, it’s like they couldn’t figure out what to do next. Every minute they would ask “when will it be back on?” or “is it fixed yet?”, it was quite funny. We sent them outside to play while the At&t worker did his magic.
It really had me thinking of when I was as a child and how I was always outside running around getting into mischief. My kids need time to use their imagination which had me thinking I really need to cut back their time with their electronics including the television. Recently they have been thriving from the time away from all the media and have bonded more with each other. They interacted more with each other which is great overall for their social development.
In the long run I will be setting up a schedule that will allow so much time for them to choose if they want to watch television or play a video game. Choices are good but should be limited when giving options. You don’t want to overwhelm your children which will end up in disaster. That is also why I posted about movie night with the kids, that is a great way to encourage the kids to enjoy family time while watching one of their favorite movies or shows.
For instance, when I was a child we would go out and play hide and go seek, tag, freeze tag, football, and jump rope. There are endless games that can be played it is just that our children have been born in an era where it has been overshadowed by media and electronic devices. When I went to the store the other day I made sure to buy them a soccer ball. In my younger years I loved kicking around a soccer ball so my first thought was ‘I am going to get my kids one’. They absolutely love it.
Exercise is so important for children, getting them outside to play, it’s crucial for their physical development and also their mental status. On another note I have decided to work out with my kids, for instance, like taking daily walks or playing games outside with them. This helps me and the kids bond and get our blood pumping. When outside though, especially in the summer, it is good to make sure you have access to water, so you can stay hydrated. The heat index can be a lot hotter than usually predicted and that can be a problem for you and your children. During the summer months I always make sure my kids have access to a Little Tikes kiddy pool so that they can also have water play even with water guns when we are outside. This helps them stay cool and have fun at the same time.
Today I got a lot of one on one with my kids. It was nice considering I normally seem to be caught up with so much unnecessary stuff throughout the day. To be honest I just get busy and forget how important it is to spend time with the kids. Our children need attention, it is important to give them that. It helps there imaginative play, their social skills, and overall mental health. Kids thrive on having their parents attention. Me and my daughter got to play with her barbies, it was quite fun to go back in time and pretend to be a kid again. With my boys it was war, playing with army men.
As an adult I feel like all I do is stress and dwell on the negative but when my kids play with me or vice versa I actually feel much better. I am able to actually be myself and enjoy some quality time with my kids. Also I have really gotten to love the outside time with them also, especially with the water guns. My boys are very sneaky and have gotten me good many times this summer.
I think taking a time out and taking a break from adulthood is good. It helps me take a breather and feel refreshed. My kids are happy and truly enjoy the time as well. Just seeing their face when I am there spending time with them brightens my day. I encourage all parents to try it, take some time to just sit down and spend some quality time with their little ones. You might actually find it to be an amazing experience an a chance to make unforgettable memories.
You know as a parent privacy is hard to come by. It is so true. To be honest in my opinion I feel like when I make a phone call that is the time you will see my children show their true crazy nature. It brings the maniac out of my kids! Getting on the phone especially if it is an important phone call my kids go bananas. It’s “Mommy I need this.” “Mommy I want to talk.” and so on. Then I will have some of them even try to climb me as I am on the phone. Yep my kids are definitely the attention speaking type.
Getting on another point I have noticed that the same behavior comes out when we have visitors. They can’t just sit quietly or play calmly, nope, that would be too easy. It’s like they have this initial embedded beacon that goes off when mommy is doing something or visiting with someone. It is quite humorous in a way.
Parenthood is definitely funny, there are days that I feel like I am in a comedy show. Kids do funny things especially when they have an audience. There are times I wish that I could catch some of the stuff they do on camera, I would be famous. Just kidding. But it is true, kids are funny. When I get overwhelmed I just have to think of the funny crazy moments and remember they are just being kids. As an adult I feel like I have forgotten the true nature of being a kid. When I sit down and spend time with my kiddos I get a taste of how I felt in my childhood and it helps me relate to them better. So spend time with your kids. Laugh together. Make unforgettable memories. Live life to the fullest.
Today I ran across one of the funniest life hacks hat had me on the floor laughing. The image it gave me of when I was a teenager was priceless! To be honest an image of teenagers today going through phone withdrawals is just overbearingly hilarious. The life hack quotes this:
“When punishing your kids, don’t take away their electronics. Just take their charger and watch the fear in their eyes as they use it less and less while the battery slowly dies.”
It was just to pass up to now share!!! As a parent I have learned it is best to have an open mind and a great sense of humor!!!!