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P.A.R.E.N.T.I.N.G.

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To be honest parents forget that children take in everything that they are exposed to.  We don’t filter normally because we don’t think about it, we don’t acknowledge how we act can effect our children’s well-being.  Sometimes it takes a reality check to be able to come to terms with the bad habits we have in our lives.  Depression, anger, resentment, jealousy, and so many more emotions that you may be feeling are also harmful to your child.

We are an example to our children, we are not here to parade around our accomplishments and push our children aside like trophies.  We should be focusing on our kids and their futures not about what benefits us (the parents)!  Everywhere you go you will notice that the family dynamic has changed, and it is very sad.  Parents are becoming more laxed on the well-being of their child’s safety.  It is concerning and children are at high risk for emotional set-backs due to the lack of Parenting that goes on today.  I have worked with many families and have dealt with many situations that were heart-wrenching.

Parenting is not easy and for the weak, it is the hardest job you will ever be given.  When you become a parent you are taking on a huge responsibility but very rewarding one at that. Here is an acronym that really speaks to me.  It is one that I made up and is very relevant to the life and meaning of the term Parent.

Priceless
Ambitious
Rewarding
Engaging
Never-ending
Team-building

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….The Overbearing Advice of the People…..

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As new mothers, there are days where we want to just mute our ears due to the advice we hear while in public.  It’s everywhere…everyone has an opinion even yourself.  I know I have opinions and don’t even realize how intimidating they are to others.  We tend to overstep boundaries without even realizing it sometimes.  Honestly I think it is very easy for others to judge when it is not their problem to deal with.

Every parent, especially mothers deserves a chance to get settled into parenthood.  WE ALL MAKE MISTAKES. Trust me there is no going around that.  If you don’t make mistakes you will never learn.  I know…I know….parenting is tough isn’t it, there are days where I question myself based on choices I have made throughout the day.  I think it is important for parents to realize it is okay to take advice, it is okay for others to give advice….but there is a BUT….we should all know when to take a step back.  Sometimes just backing off and just being there for the person you are trying to help is the best way to make the situation better.  I know it sounds silly but sometimes it ends better if you just say “Look I am here if you need anything, or if you want I have some great advice that has worked for me.”  Things like that can move mountains in a situation that seems grim from the get go.  It can change a negative situation to a positive one.  Advice can be intimidating when not asked for in the first place.  Just think about that the next time you feel the need to step in and give a little advice.

A Gift

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I have noticed when working from home that I don’t seem as motivated and am more likely to become distracted. Yep distracted….either by my silly wildcats (joking-not) or my very creative kids find a way to pull this mommy away (which is honestly a great excuse to use).  Balancing home life can be very complicated sometimes especially when it is combined with my work life. Finding that balance is key.  I have decided recently that working after the kids go down to sleep at night has been such a better approach than my ‘I am going to try to work through the Chaos’ method.

I will say recently I have found a greater joy being home with the kids than I ever did before.  For a while I was lost in what I wanted to do with my life.  I felt unsure about every decision I made.  Now since my grandfather passed last September I have found a more meaningful understanding of how precious life is and how often we take life for granted.  I have found out how beautiful motherhood truly is and how blessed I am to be the mother of my four amazing kids!  I want all you wonderful parents out there to know it is a gift to be a parent and an honor that should always be cherished.