As a parent we sometimes feel just a little bit uncertain on how to approach certain situations regarding how your kids are going to react to it. That is perfectly spot on for most of us, to be honest for me I really try to do my best at preparing my kiddos but usually fail miserably. This is because I overthink the situation or I overstep. Allowing our kids to grow and learn is important. Hovering over them and constantly dictating how they should react or just act in a situation can be more harmful than helpful. I say this because I am definitely learning this with my ten year old, he is so ambitious, and very particular about many things. I have had to really take a step back and talk more with him about situations so he can make the better choice instead of me making it for him. For instance, like when he upset with his brother, how should he handle it… should he fight back by hitting or coming and talking to mommy and daddy about it so we can help him? This topic has just been really heavy on my heart because I see so many parents trying to overwhelm their children and themselves because they are holding on and fighting for so much control. Just like tug o war you fight for to much control they are going to resist and fight back. Go with the flow, allow your kids to experience, live, have fun…with boundaries of course, just understand you have to be able to let them be kids.
You know as a parent privacy is hard to come by. It is so true. To be honest in my opinion I feel like when I make a phone call that is the time you will see my children show their true crazy nature. It brings the maniac out of my kids! Getting on the phone especially if it is an important phone call my kids go bananas. It’s “Mommy I need this.” “Mommy I want to talk.” and so on. Then I will have some of them even try to climb me as I am on the phone. Yep my kids are definitely the attention speaking type.
Getting on another point I have noticed that the same behavior comes out when we have visitors. They can’t just sit quietly or play calmly, nope, that would be too easy. It’s like they have this initial embedded beacon that goes off when mommy is doing something or visiting with someone. It is quite humorous in a way.
Parenthood is definitely funny, there are days that I feel like I am in a comedy show. Kids do funny things especially when they have an audience. There are times I wish that I could catch some of the stuff they do on camera, I would be famous. Just kidding. But it is true, kids are funny. When I get overwhelmed I just have to think of the funny crazy moments and remember they are just being kids. As an adult I feel like I have forgotten the true nature of being a kid. When I sit down and spend time with my kiddos I get a taste of how I felt in my childhood and it helps me relate to them better. So spend time with your kids. Laugh together. Make unforgettable memories. Live life to the fullest.
It’s funny, it seems like time is definitely something we feel we have so much of and yet we don’t. Time flies by so fast, just look at your kids. They grow fast and sadly they just keep on growing. Today I was reminded of how quickly time passes and how many great adventures I miss out on with them because I get so busy in my adult life. Sometimes just taking a step back brings out perspective that is needed in our (parents) daily lives.
Today I decided to put aside all the adult stuff (Busy work, housework, work in general- I think you get the point!) and went outside with my kids and played in the water with them. Lots of laughter and memories were made because I made a choice to put them first. I admit that can be a hard thing because we get so caught up on our daily responsibilities. Being an adult can be very overwhelming and can come with a lot of stressors that children don’t have. Sometimes just taking the time to play or spend time with your children can be the best medicine for stress relief. After we played outside we decided to sit down and play Monopoly, which I used for educational purposes. They loved it and it brought joy to me. Sometimes as I said we just need to take a step back and enjoy the blessings in front of us that God has given us.
Parenting isn’t easy, there is always going to be the crazy days, the easy days, the I don’t know kind of days, but overall the only way to enjoy parenting is to realize there is no perfect way to parent. Remember you are enough, don’t overthink parenting, embrace it and take it all in. You miss all the fun and joyful moments when you don’t give parenting your all.
Parenting can be a live comedy! Daily I find humor in the little things that arise during our day! Kids have a way about bringing laughter and joy when everything else seems complicated and overwhelming. It is true, when you become a parent you really don’t have a dull moment in your life no more. Always expect the unexpected, especially if you have a toddler at home. They will definitely bring the best out of us parents when they decide to get into mischief. It is a priveledge and joy to watch my kids grow, try things, experience life, and embrace the difficult trials because memories are being made. Enjoy your little ones, take time to notice and compliment the good. Time is not a luxury it is a gift that should be taken with care!
To be honest parents forget that children take in everything that they are exposed to. We don’t filter normally because we don’t think about it, we don’t acknowledge how we act can effect our children’s well-being. Sometimes it takes a reality check to be able to come to terms with the bad habits we have in our lives. Depression, anger, resentment, jealousy, and so many more emotions that you may be feeling are also harmful to your child.
We are an example to our children, we are not here to parade around our accomplishments and push our children aside like trophies. We should be focusing on our kids and their futures not about what benefits us (the parents)! Everywhere you go you will notice that the family dynamic has changed, and it is very sad. Parents are becoming more laxed on the well-being of their child’s safety. It is concerning and children are at high risk for emotional set-backs due to the lack of Parenting that goes on today. I have worked with many families and have dealt with many situations that were heart-wrenching.
Parenting is not easy and for the weak, it is the hardest job you will ever be given. When you become a parent you are taking on a huge responsibility but very rewarding one at that. Here is an acronym that really speaks to me. It is one that I made up and is very relevant to the life and meaning of the term Parent.