Being a parent can be very difficult especially if you add autism to the mix. For me that is a challenge, one I am not too fond of. Today I find out if my third son is on the spectrum, which in a Way makes me nervous. If he is diagnosed that will make it three for three. I have five kids, three boys and two girls. None of my boys have escaped the burden of autism so far and the first screening we had with our last was not good at all.
It is so discouraging at times to watch my sons struggle everyday. My nine year old struggles the most and it just breaks my heart. Knowing that he gets bullied at school doesn’t help at all either. It is definitely a hard transition for my babies when it comes to interacting with their peers, strangers, or other social experiences. It’s sad to watch them get overwhelmed when I take them out into the store knowing many are probably viewing him as a bad kid and not one that needs comfort and understanding.
My goal here is to help bring awareness for Autism. So many don’t understand it!!! I hate when people say ‘they don’t look autistic’, well no duh, Autism is so much more involved. Every child, adult, person is different on the spectrum. First ask questions, do research but don’t judge. Until you know the struggle and heartache just pray and be more understanding. Also feel free to check out my website, The Family Way
The other night I posted a blog relating to spending time with your little ones by having a movie night! Well now I am going to touch base on making time for your spouse. It is important to focus on your spouse even when you have kids. Trust me I know it can be difficult especially if you aren’t used to multi-tasking and don’t have any time management skills. What I do is normally send the kids to bed at their normal bedtime which is between 8-8:30. Once they are in bed me and my husband talk about movie options, we make sure we have snacks available to enjoy as we watch the movie also. Normally we pick a movie we both like but there are times we also take turns of who gets to pick the movie next.
This is a great way to bond with your spouse. I call it our date night and it works, at least for us. Sometimes we will even play board games, write together, even just sit down and talk and eat together. It is important to make time with your spouse and the evenings are a great chance to do that. For our schedule it definitely works but I understand that everyone is different and may have unusual work schedules.
It is healthy in a marriage to make sure you are connecting with your spouse. I am sad to say I have witnessed so many divorces over the last eleven years that me and my husband have been married. Most of them only lasting between two to four years. It has been a mission that I have been trying to pursue since I have noticed the drastic incline of divorce rates since we got married. Another factor I would encourage to help with growing a healthy marriage is communication. Make sure you and your spouse are talking to each other, it helps build a much stronger bond between the two of you and you start to understand your partner much better than before. Hope these little tid-bits help.
Today I got a lot of one on one with my kids. It was nice considering I normally seem to be caught up with so much unnecessary stuff throughout the day. To be honest I just get busy and forget how important it is to spend time with the kids. Our children need attention, it is important to give them that. It helps there imaginative play, their social skills, and overall mental health. Kids thrive on having their parents attention. Me and my daughter got to play with her barbies, it was quite fun to go back in time and pretend to be a kid again. With my boys it was war, playing with army men.
As an adult I feel like all I do is stress and dwell on the negative but when my kids play with me or vice versa I actually feel much better. I am able to actually be myself and enjoy some quality time with my kids. Also I have really gotten to love the outside time with them also, especially with the water guns. My boys are very sneaky and have gotten me good many times this summer.
I think taking a time out and taking a break from adulthood is good. It helps me take a breather and feel refreshed. My kids are happy and truly enjoy the time as well. Just seeing their face when I am there spending time with them brightens my day. I encourage all parents to try it, take some time to just sit down and spend some quality time with their little ones. You might actually find it to be an amazing experience an a chance to make unforgettable memories.
You know as a parent privacy is hard to come by. It is so true. To be honest in my opinion I feel like when I make a phone call that is the time you will see my children show their true crazy nature. It brings the maniac out of my kids! Getting on the phone especially if it is an important phone call my kids go bananas. It’s “Mommy I need this.” “Mommy I want to talk.” and so on. Then I will have some of them even try to climb me as I am on the phone. Yep my kids are definitely the attention speaking type.
Getting on another point I have noticed that the same behavior comes out when we have visitors. They can’t just sit quietly or play calmly, nope, that would be too easy. It’s like they have this initial embedded beacon that goes off when mommy is doing something or visiting with someone. It is quite humorous in a way.
Parenthood is definitely funny, there are days that I feel like I am in a comedy show. Kids do funny things especially when they have an audience. There are times I wish that I could catch some of the stuff they do on camera, I would be famous. Just kidding. But it is true, kids are funny. When I get overwhelmed I just have to think of the funny crazy moments and remember they are just being kids. As an adult I feel like I have forgotten the true nature of being a kid. When I sit down and spend time with my kiddos I get a taste of how I felt in my childhood and it helps me relate to them better. So spend time with your kids. Laugh together. Make unforgettable memories. Live life to the fullest.
My brother Michael sent me a beautiful video that was put together by him of our Grandaddy. He passed away back in September of 2015, that is when I really cut back on my writing also.
This video shows just a fragment of the service he did for the Lord. Giving Bibles to churches and all over Bulgaria. Risking his life while working for the Lord so others could know about Jesus. We need to have that dedication, that motivation to drop everything and put Him first!
Thank you again Michael for the beautiful video!