As a parent we sometimes feel just a little bit uncertain on how to approach certain situations regarding how your kids are going to react to it. That is perfectly spot on for most of us, to be honest for me I really try to do my best at preparing my kiddos but usually fail miserably. This is because I overthink the situation or I overstep. Allowing our kids to grow and learn is important. Hovering over them and constantly dictating how they should react or just act in a situation can be more harmful than helpful. I say this because I am definitely learning this with my ten year old, he is so ambitious, and very particular about many things. I have had to really take a step back and talk more with him about situations so he can make the better choice instead of me making it for him. For instance, like when he upset with his brother, how should he handle it… should he fight back by hitting or coming and talking to mommy and daddy about it so we can help him? This topic has just been really heavy on my heart because I see so many parents trying to overwhelm their children and themselves because they are holding on and fighting for so much control. Just like tug o war you fight for to much control they are going to resist and fight back. Go with the flow, allow your kids to experience, live, have fun…with boundaries of course, just understand you have to be able to let them be kids.
Being a parent can be very difficult especially if you add autism to the mix. For me that is a challenge, one I am not too fond of. Today I find out if my third son is on the spectrum, which in a Way makes me nervous. If he is diagnosed that will make it three for three. I have five kids, three boys and two girls. None of my boys have escaped the burden of autism so far and the first screening we had with our last was not good at all.
It is so discouraging at times to watch my sons struggle everyday. My nine year old struggles the most and it just breaks my heart. Knowing that he gets bullied at school doesn’t help at all either. It is definitely a hard transition for my babies when it comes to interacting with their peers, strangers, or other social experiences. It’s sad to watch them get overwhelmed when I take them out into the store knowing many are probably viewing him as a bad kid and not one that needs comfort and understanding.
My goal here is to help bring awareness for Autism. So many don’t understand it!!! I hate when people say ‘they don’t look autistic’, well no duh, Autism is so much more involved. Every child, adult, person is different on the spectrum. First ask questions, do research but don’t judge. Until you know the struggle and heartache just pray and be more understanding. Also feel free to check out my website, The Family Way
Today I am really working hard to publish one of my ebooks that I have been working on. I’ve got a lot to do but I am feeling confident that I will finish by the end of the day. Publishing a book is not as simple as I thought. To be honest I love writing, hate editing, and well yeah I am sure you get it. Billy, my husband, thinks it’s funny because it has taken me this long to even get a book out.
Right now I am just spending time with the kids while an AT&T technician works on our internet. It has not been user friendly at all for over a month which has also caused me a lot of time as well. Hoping it will be back up soon!
To be honest it has been nice to take a break from the digital world. I can’t say my kids agree but it definitely has encouraged them to be more adventurous! It has forced them to use their imagination and has pushed me to get tons done around the house. There is a lesson to come from this too! It is so easy to get caught up with our digital devices that we forget what’s truly important in life. Hope everyone is having an amazing Wednesday! Feel free to comment below as well 🙂
Last night me and Billy had a movie night at the house. It’s a tradition when the kids go to sleep that we spend time with each other either playing board games, talking, Bible Study, or even Movie Nights. We decided on Escape Plan!! Such a great movie, it really had my mind going. Scary thought that their are people who could possibly be that smart savvy to figure out how to break out of every prison built by man. It was definitely interesting and I do recommend it for a date night for couples! Not recommended for kids though! Hope everyone is having a great day. Here is the trailer below!
Today I ran across one of the funniest life hacks hat had me on the floor laughing. The image it gave me of when I was a teenager was priceless! To be honest an image of teenagers today going through phone withdrawals is just overbearingly hilarious. The life hack quotes this:
“When punishing your kids, don’t take away their electronics. Just take their charger and watch the fear in their eyes as they use it less and less while the battery slowly dies.”
It was just to pass up to now share!!! As a parent I have learned it is best to have an open mind and a great sense of humor!!!!
Parenting can be a live comedy! Daily I find humor in the little things that arise during our day! Kids have a way about bringing laughter and joy when everything else seems complicated and overwhelming. It is true, when you become a parent you really don’t have a dull moment in your life no more. Always expect the unexpected, especially if you have a toddler at home. They will definitely bring the best out of us parents when they decide to get into mischief. It is a priveledge and joy to watch my kids grow, try things, experience life, and embrace the difficult trials because memories are being made. Enjoy your little ones, take time to notice and compliment the good. Time is not a luxury it is a gift that should be taken with care!
Parenting…there is nothing like it! You will have your fun, crazy, terrible, amazing, and nothing can describe days! I am sure many know exactly what I am talking about to lol. Especially having three boys and one girl I have learned that chaos definitly comes with the territory.
Here are some pictures of my sweet amazing mini me’s!!!!!! Enjoy!
To be honest parents forget that children take in everything that they are exposed to. We don’t filter normally because we don’t think about it, we don’t acknowledge how we act can effect our children’s well-being. Sometimes it takes a reality check to be able to come to terms with the bad habits we have in our lives. Depression, anger, resentment, jealousy, and so many more emotions that you may be feeling are also harmful to your child.
We are an example to our children, we are not here to parade around our accomplishments and push our children aside like trophies. We should be focusing on our kids and their futures not about what benefits us (the parents)! Everywhere you go you will notice that the family dynamic has changed, and it is very sad. Parents are becoming more laxed on the well-being of their child’s safety. It is concerning and children are at high risk for emotional set-backs due to the lack of Parenting that goes on today. I have worked with many families and have dealt with many situations that were heart-wrenching.
Parenting is not easy and for the weak, it is the hardest job you will ever be given. When you become a parent you are taking on a huge responsibility but very rewarding one at that. Here is an acronym that really speaks to me. It is one that I made up and is very relevant to the life and meaning of the term Parent.