MomTalk

Managing the Chaos

May 20, 2018May 20, 2018 Bennett18Leave a comment

Managing stress can be a difficult task, especially if you have a lot of factors contributing it! Finding ways to help alleviate the anxiety and overwhelming feeling of stress can be a great way of overcoming it. Recently baking has been my stress outlet, I have been making a lot of different kinds of muffins. It seems like they are a hit considering when I do bake them they vanish. Baking cookies also has been a delight to try. It’s fun to experiment in the kitchen, I just love making new creations. It is also a good way to connect with your little ones as well.

There are so many ways to bring on stress and so many ways to counteract it also. Sitting down and playing games, coloring pictures, and silly songs with your little ones can really help you zone into a more calming attitude. Find a hobby, go out and see friends, take chances, and embrace life to the fullest. No matter how much stress is on your plate your situation is only temporary.

Building a Foundation

May 19, 2018May 19, 2018 Bennett18Leave a comment

Building a foundation in a relationship can be a process, one that needs to be taken with care and patience. Love prevails always especially when two people are devoted to each other unconditionally. I have been married for nine years and through those years I have had many ups and a lot of downs but every moment was and is worth it. Divorce has become rampant among our generation and it is heartbreaking to see, too many young people are not experiencing the true joy of love and marriage like they should because of Divorce.

Marriage should never be just an experience or a new fad to try out. It is a gift between two individuals that want to face the good and the bad together. When I met my husband I did not realize he was the one…no… but I knew he was special and boy God threw me a curve ball when he placed Billy, my husband in my life. Billy gave me unconditional love, he was, is, and will always be my soul-mate. No person is perfect and there will always be flaws in every relationship even if you are not married. You should never set unattainable goals that you two can not meet, try to balance out each others differences and work together as a unit to solve solutions that arise.

Love is a choice. You hear that many say ‘oh well I fell out of love with that person…blah blah blah’. Well that is not how it works, love is taken for granted most of the time and forgotten. There are days I struggle but no matter how bad it gets it still doesn’t warrant me to escape the bond me and my husband share. My marriage is tested daily but everyday me and my husband grow stronger together through the good and the bad. We lean on each other and build each other up to fight our battles together.

One ingredient that makes a marriage successful is usually thrown to the side though and that is GOD. If you do not have God in your marriage then you are in for a rough road but not an impossible one. It is important to build a strong foundation and a good way to do that is through prayer and Christ. God will give you the strength to overcome the hurdles you both will face in your relationship during your marriage. Even if you aren’t married and just engaged or together having God in your relationship will help you two grow closer and stronger together. Always remember never just throw in the towel, try to fight through the rough times, build on each other, and embrace life to the fullest.

Growing Together

May 19, 2018May 19, 2018 Bennett18Leave a comment

There are going to be times where you think you know a woman and times where it seems like you are back at square one. Women can be very complex and should be treated as such. There are many factors that can contribute to a woman’s mood that day. Everyone has their bad days and their good days but we all express how we feel differently. As a male you have your outlets and so do women.
Women have a need for comfort and a need for love. It is what drives us, it gives us security when we have both, especially when it comes from our special man in our lives. There are many different love languages that can be attributed to helping you and the woman you care about connect. You have to be able to get to know your lover, spouse, or partner.
There are five love languages that can help you and your spouse grow in your relationship. Even if you aren’t in a relationship yet some of these languages can still apply. There is the love language of touch. Physical touch is very important. Most men and women have a sexual relationship, which is a good foundation to establish. This is an important aspect of a relationship that should be maintained. It is important that communication is just as strong as your physical relationship. Both of you need to communicate each others needs to one another. A woman is more interested in the bond and the connection she has with you, not just the physical contact. That is crucial and really helps build her trust in you.
There is also the love language of giving gifts. Can’t deny every woman loves receiving gifts from their sweetheart. It comes with the territory when in a relationship. It also helps keep the spontaneity in the relationship. Surprising her once in a while will give her a boost of confidence and self-worth. This is an act of love that you could show when she is having a bad day. Knowing your partner is important in all of the love languages, applying all of them can help you build upon and create a good foundation for your relationship. Figuring out which love language is hers is really important. It is also good if she connects with yours as well. That will help you both learn each other and will help you two grow together.
Spending quality time together is a big love language. It is one that I would apply to any relationship. You want to grow together and not apart. In your relationship it is important that you learn to apply some of your partner’s hobbies into your life as she does some of yours. Share time together even if it is to take a walk in the park or a boat ride on the lake. Finding time for each other helps you build and connect in the relationship. You will learn new and amazing things about your partner as you try new things her.
There is the acts of service. This is where you offer to do something for your spouse like cleaning the kitchen or cooking dinner. Offering her to rest while you take over shows her in action of how you feel of her well-being. That gives her a warm-safe feeling that makes her feel secure. She knows you care for her and that you are there for her. This one is also important even if it isn’t your love language or hers it still helps you build in the relationship and teaches you both to work together.
The last one is words of affirmation. This is where you use words like “I love you”, “you are so beautiful”, and “You are amazing.” Words like that are encouraging or uplifting and gives her a confidence boost and makes her feel good about herself and the relationship. It is important to a woman to know what her partner is feeling. It is really hard when men don’t express themselves or talk about how they feel to us women. Communication is crucial to a relationship. It can’t survive without both partners communicating between each other.
In conclusion all of these love languages should be applied to your relationship even if they aren’t your love language. It is important to use them to help you both grow together. This will help you two build and learn to listen to each other. Every woman and man is different. You want to make sure you make the best of the relationship. Applying these to your relationship helps you grow and learn new things about your partner you didn’t know before. Give them a try and see for yourself.

What’s Your Name?

May 19, 2018May 19, 2018 Bennett18Leave a comment

I am reminded everyday how special it was when my little ones first started to say and I quote ‘Ma Ma’ or ‘Da Da’! Yep such adorable times, a milestone every mom and dad want their sweet bundle of joy to reach! It melts our hearts when we hear them babble our names at such young ages.

Fast forward just a bit, maybe just a few years on it seems like my name has become legendary lol! The constant ‘Mom, Mommy, Mother’ or ‘Dad, Daddy, and even Father’ from your child can be one a little too bearing at times. But even through the nagging, tattling, whiny muttering, yelling, and screaming there is a purpose behind your name. As a parent the title Mother and Father should be sacred. It is one that should give you a sense of satisfaction. Those sweet children also say your name because they love you, trust you, and look up to you. You are their beacon that will guide and lead them to the person they will grow up to be.

Enjoy the crazy moments, the embarrassing ones, and the silly moments because you only get one shot to be the person they call Mom and Dad! Be joyous and enjoy h memories you make with you little ones because as I noted in my previous post ‘Time Flies’, it really does.

Time Flies

May 18, 2018May 19, 2018 Bennett18Leave a comment

It’s funny, it seems like time is definitely something we feel we have so much of and yet we don’t. Time flies by so fast, just look at your kids. They grow fast and sadly they just keep on growing. Today I was reminded of how quickly time passes and how many great adventures I miss out on with them because I get so busy in my adult life. Sometimes just taking a step back brings out perspective that is needed in our (parents) daily lives.

Today I decided to put aside all the adult stuff (Busy work, housework, work in general- I think you get the point!) and went outside with my kids and played in the water with them. Lots of laughter and memories were made because I made a choice to put them first. I admit that can be a hard thing because we get so caught up on our daily responsibilities. Being an adult can be very overwhelming and can come with a lot of stressors that children don’t have. Sometimes just taking the time to play or spend time with your children can be the best medicine for stress relief. After we played outside we decided to sit down and play Monopoly, which I used for educational purposes. They loved it and it brought joy to me. Sometimes as I said we just need to take a step back and enjoy the blessings in front of us that God has given us.

Parenting isn’t easy, there is always going to be the crazy days, the easy days, the I don’t know kind of days, but overall the only way to enjoy parenting is to realize there is no perfect way to parent. Remember you are enough, don’t overthink parenting, embrace it and take it all in. You miss all the fun and joyful moments when you don’t give parenting your all.

The Little Things

January 21, 2018 Bennett18Leave a comment

mommy and jewel Last year was full of adventures just like this year is starting to blossom. We brought in the New Year with our newest addition to our growing family, Jewel Florence Bennett, who was born January 15th. Having five kids has definitely taught me that patience is a definite necessity to keeping a cool on the craziest of moments. Personally it is such a joy as a mother to see all my kids be so attentive and active with each other.

Change has never been my strength which has been something I have been having to deal with for the last three years. I feel like I have grown and matured so much from all the hurdles that we as a family have had to endure. Losing loved ones, illness, and many other struggles have really pushed us in so many directions but in the end God has brought us through all these tough times.

I have really enjoyed learning and growing from everything I have personally have had to face over the last few years. Taking one day at a time is a true benefit that most of us don’t take advantage of. I learned the hard way that stressing over things that are out of my control or are far off will only bring stress and emotionally drain me causing me to be apathetic at times.

Enjoying the time you have with your family, laughing at the funny and crazy moments, embracing the difficult and trying times, and giving your all is what life should be all about. Watching my kids play, being silly, making and discovering new things, making memories, and just being kids is what reminds me of how blessed I am. It also reminds me that I should take it all in because time doesn’t stand still, it passes so quickly. If we worry about the little stuff and stress we are going to miss out on the greatest moments that are right in front of us.

Time

September 12, 2017 Bennett18Leave a comment

Parenting can be a live comedy! Daily I find humor in the little things that arise during our day! Kids have a way about bringing laughter and joy when everything else seems complicated and overwhelming. It is true, when you become a parent you really don’t have a dull moment in your life no more. Always expect the unexpected, especially if you have a toddler at home. They will definitely bring the best out of us parents when they decide to get into mischief. It is a priveledge and joy to watch my kids grow, try things, experience life, and embrace the difficult trials because memories are being made. Enjoy your little ones, take time to notice and compliment the good. Time is not a luxury it is a gift that should be taken with care!

The Mommy Truth

August 25, 2017 Bennett18Leave a comment

It’s funny, as moms we tend to feel and conceive the attitude that we got it all figured out! Well, that is a nice thought…isn’t it?! Sadly that is only a cover for the real deal and what it means to be a mom. Chaos is a daily thing for us, no getting around it, because life happens. Nothing ever goes according to plan even though the shows on television definitely make it look smooth and easy!

Over the last year or so I took a step back from blogging and freelancing. So much was going on and I was trying to figure it all out one day at a time. Life can definitely through you some curve balls especially ones that you never see coming. Finally after getting myself established once again and more organized I have started back with my blogging. Over the last three days as my kids started school and I was trying to get back in the groove I realized how funny it is that as a mom I feel like I have to be super mom all the time. But that expectation is so unrealistic, no mom is perfect! We just do our best and that’s all we can do!

I just want all you lovely mommies to know… you are doing an AMAZING job!!! Keep it up!

Sensory Fun with the Littles

May 29, 2017 Bennett18Leave a comment

Sensory play is an awesome way to get your kiddos to try new things! I enjoy applying it at home and in my work environment when I am in the classroom. Pinterest is a site to look different types of messy sensory ideas for you and your child to try out. Slime, moon sand, edible sand, food play, and water play are just a small few ideas you can give a try. Definitely take a look at Pinterest and google and try some new things! Let your inner child out!