It’s a funny thing, our children are truly the product of our own habits and behaviors. We are their example to society and how they grow into adulthood. My children range from the ages of four months to nine years, big difference when it comes to personalities for all of them. I have noticed some traits that have been picked up that have really made me change how I deal with my children. Even when I was teaching I noticed how children would respond based on my reaction to the situation that was placed in front of me.
Children are so resilient compared to us adults, thank goodness for that too. For example children learn and adapt quicker which is why the experts say to intervene now and teach them the right way to act. Sometimes I have to really catch myself on how to respond to a situation so I can better help my child than give into my frustration, which can really be a challenge when you are already at your breaking point. We as Parents can have bad habits some we need to break when we have children, like curse words or shutting your child out. This does your child no good and ends up putting up a wall between you and your child.
When I got pregnant for the first time I was told by many wise ladies to not befriend my children but to parent them. This is so true, I am not my children’s best friend, I am their mother. As their mother I love them unconditionally and protect them with all I have. It is my job to teach them to grow into respectful well-mannered adults. It’s not the school’s job, the grandparents’ job, or anyone else’s job either. It’s okay to hurt your child’s feelings by disciplining them or getting on to them when they have done something wrong. They need that structured environment to thrive, they need boundaries to feel safe and secure. Always remember you are their superhero, you are their role model in life.
It’s funny as an adult to think of the phrase “Life is like a box of chocolate’s you never know what you are going to get.” That statement was made by Forrest Gump in the movie “Forrest Gump”. As a child it went over my head and I never really connected with that statement, now that I am an adult I see how true it is. Life is full of many twists and turns and you never really know where you are going to end up. Today I was thnking about all the many different routes my life could have taken due to choices that were laid on my lap when I was younger. Life is like a path with many different directions or a river with many different currents. It’s interesting to think about all the many different choices and paths that could have been but weren’t because of the path you chose already.
Life is like a box of chocolates, we don’t know what will happen the next day, moment, or year from now. There are so many different scenarios that can result from one choice that was made and you don’t know which one is going to when the lottery for that day. To be honest I enjoy not knowing, living life with laughter and joy without knowing what is going to happen next makes life more exciting in my opinion. Just like in the featured picture for this post, my youngest son is holding an Easter egg full of candy. Until he opens it he doesn’t know what kind is in it. Life is amazing and is like a roller coaster that gives you so much of thrill and excitement. Live life to the fullest, you never know when your journey is going to end. Live. Laugh. Make Memories.
The seasons have changed, the grass is greener, the sky is brighter, and the kids are out! Yes, Summer has officially begun!!! Personally I can’t believe how much time has flown by this year. It seems like it was only Yesterday that we were celebrating Christmas and now here it is almost Memorial Day.
Planning fun outside activities with the family, like picnics and park trips are great ways to connect with your family. I have been trying to incorporate a lot of water play with the kids to keep them cool as they play outside in the heat. Having chalk, bubbles, and crafts available for the kids help alleviate boredom and build on their creativity. On another note though, boredom isn’t a bad hint to have. When children are bored they are able to use their imagination which I feel is a great way to help your child build character and think outside the box.
Motherhood in a snapshot!
Love is a funny thing, it makes you do insane things. Thinking straight is out of the question, logic becomes cloudy, and you lose yourself in all the bliss it brings. It is something that can’t be tossed aside so easily. Love takes effort, understanding, patience, endurance, and humbleness to work.
When I met my husband for the first time I knew something was special about him. it is so fun when you begin dating, exploring the differences and similarities, along with getting to know the person you really like. Falling in Love is a process one that takes time.
My husband jokes a lot that I am his distraction. As I stated before love can make you do crazy things. Love can make you blind lol, you see life in a whole new way than the reality. Love is such a beautiful emotion, act among two people. Once you find it, hold onto it because it is such a precious gift once found. Love hard, laugh always, and make endless memories.
Building a foundation in a relationship can be a process, one that needs to be taken with care and patience. Love prevails always especially when two people are devoted to each other unconditionally. I have been married for nine years and through those years I have had many ups and a lot of downs but every moment was and is worth it. Divorce has become rampant among our generation and it is heartbreaking to see, too many young people are not experiencing the true joy of love and marriage like they should because of Divorce.
Marriage should never be just an experience or a new fad to try out. It is a gift between two individuals that want to face the good and the bad together. When I met my husband I did not realize he was the one…no… but I knew he was special and boy God threw me a curve ball when he placed Billy, my husband in my life. Billy gave me unconditional love, he was, is, and will always be my soul-mate. No person is perfect and there will always be flaws in every relationship even if you are not married. You should never set unattainable goals that you two can not meet, try to balance out each others differences and work together as a unit to solve solutions that arise.
Love is a choice. You hear that many say ‘oh well I fell out of love with that person…blah blah blah’. Well that is not how it works, love is taken for granted most of the time and forgotten. There are days I struggle but no matter how bad it gets it still doesn’t warrant me to escape the bond me and my husband share. My marriage is tested daily but everyday me and my husband grow stronger together through the good and the bad. We lean on each other and build each other up to fight our battles together.
One ingredient that makes a marriage successful is usually thrown to the side though and that is GOD. If you do not have God in your marriage then you are in for a rough road but not an impossible one. It is important to build a strong foundation and a good way to do that is through prayer and Christ. God will give you the strength to overcome the hurdles you both will face in your relationship during your marriage. Even if you aren’t married and just engaged or together having God in your relationship will help you two grow closer and stronger together. Always remember never just throw in the towel, try to fight through the rough times, build on each other, and embrace life to the fullest.
There are going to be times where you think you know a woman and times where it seems like you are back at square one. Women can be very complex and should be treated as such. There are many factors that can contribute to a woman’s mood that day. Everyone has their bad days and their good days but we all express how we feel differently. As a male you have your outlets and so do women.
Women have a need for comfort and a need for love. It is what drives us, it gives us security when we have both, especially when it comes from our special man in our lives. There are many different love languages that can be attributed to helping you and the woman you care about connect. You have to be able to get to know your lover, spouse, or partner.
There are five love languages that can help you and your spouse grow in your relationship. Even if you aren’t in a relationship yet some of these languages can still apply. There is the love language of touch. Physical touch is very important. Most men and women have a sexual relationship, which is a good foundation to establish. This is an important aspect of a relationship that should be maintained. It is important that communication is just as strong as your physical relationship. Both of you need to communicate each others needs to one another. A woman is more interested in the bond and the connection she has with you, not just the physical contact. That is crucial and really helps build her trust in you.
There is also the love language of giving gifts. Can’t deny every woman loves receiving gifts from their sweetheart. It comes with the territory when in a relationship. It also helps keep the spontaneity in the relationship. Surprising her once in a while will give her a boost of confidence and self-worth. This is an act of love that you could show when she is having a bad day. Knowing your partner is important in all of the love languages, applying all of them can help you build upon and create a good foundation for your relationship. Figuring out which love language is hers is really important. It is also good if she connects with yours as well. That will help you both learn each other and will help you two grow together.
Spending quality time together is a big love language. It is one that I would apply to any relationship. You want to grow together and not apart. In your relationship it is important that you learn to apply some of your partner’s hobbies into your life as she does some of yours. Share time together even if it is to take a walk in the park or a boat ride on the lake. Finding time for each other helps you build and connect in the relationship. You will learn new and amazing things about your partner as you try new things her.
There is the acts of service. This is where you offer to do something for your spouse like cleaning the kitchen or cooking dinner. Offering her to rest while you take over shows her in action of how you feel of her well-being. That gives her a warm-safe feeling that makes her feel secure. She knows you care for her and that you are there for her. This one is also important even if it isn’t your love language or hers it still helps you build in the relationship and teaches you both to work together.
The last one is words of affirmation. This is where you use words like “I love you”, “you are so beautiful”, and “You are amazing.” Words like that are encouraging or uplifting and gives her a confidence boost and makes her feel good about herself and the relationship. It is important to a woman to know what her partner is feeling. It is really hard when men don’t express themselves or talk about how they feel to us women. Communication is crucial to a relationship. It can’t survive without both partners communicating between each other.
In conclusion all of these love languages should be applied to your relationship even if they aren’t your love language. It is important to use them to help you both grow together. This will help you two build and learn to listen to each other. Every woman and man is different. You want to make sure you make the best of the relationship. Applying these to your relationship helps you grow and learn new things about your partner you didn’t know before. Give them a try and see for yourself.
Where do I begin…society seems to be in divided tyranny. There is one major stance I take very seriously, one that many take offense to or shun because in some eyes it is not a politically correct view to take a stand for.
Recently I have seen a lot of terrible posts regarding abortion also known as Murder. Yes, I know I said the “M” word and Yes I meant it. I am saddened by the unborn babies that lose their lives daily due to the lack of responsibility and compassion for life.
Somebody has to raise a voice for those that can’t speak or stand up for themselves! We do that for our own children every single day. When you conceive a child your title as a mother and father is automatic no exceptions. Unborn babies feel, hear, and are intelligent. They are gifts from the Lord and so many take them for granted.
It is just breaking my heart….Take a Stand! Fight for the Unborn!!!
These last few weeks have been a challenge for me and as a result my blogging got put on the back burner for a bit. Life surely has its twists and turns, most you don’t even expect or see until you are faced with the dilemma.
I have learned though with all the stress, pain, and endurance we feel there will always beat sense of self worth and achievement that follows. I recently had to learn the hard way that stressing is not the answer to any problem, all it did was make me very sick.
As change enters my family again I try to remind myself that no matter how difficult or stressful a situation may seem there is always a way to make the transition more enjoyable.
Ways to Cope with Stress…
- Take a Break: walk away from the problem or project. Give yourself a break to re-evaluate your game plan.
- Eat and Drink lots of Water! Make sure you are taking care of YOU! That always helps when faced with a stressful dilemma.
- Take a Warm Bath or Shower 😌
- Take notes or jot down what your goals are! This is a great way to see where your head is at.
- Prayer is a top priority when stress is involved, there is Ning too great for God!
I hope these coping mechanisms help you all that do deal with stress on a day to day basis.
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