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Over Thinking!

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Today has been one of those days where I have been thinking too much.  It has been almost a year now since I lost someone very dear to me.  My mind has been in overdrive going through the last days before the passing of my dear grandfather.  He was special, ambitious, and always compassionate towards others.  A fighter for God and always a true example of the person I am striding to be.

As I go through the memory lane I am remembering the joy and heart-felt love that he always showed no matter how rough his day got.  He never gave up on me and always gave me the encouragement I needed to push forward.

It has been a rough year for me.  The hardest part behind his death was picking the pieces up and moving forward with my life.  He was my friend, the one I could pick up the phone and talk to when my day was not going so well.  He was the one where I could always depend on to be there when I needed someone to listen, encourage, and push me when I felt down.  We talked everyday, more than once and that was the best.

As I move forward I am having to re-find myself in all the chaos.  Rebuilding the broken pieces and replacing them with new memories, new friends, a new beginning or should I say chapter.  Even though he is gone he will always be there cheering me on just as he used to.

My World! ❤️

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Parenting…there is nothing like it!  You will have your fun, crazy, terrible, amazing, and nothing can describe days!  I am sure many know exactly what I am talking about to lol.  Especially having three boys and one girl I have learned that chaos definitly comes with the territory.

Here are some pictures of my sweet amazing mini me’s!!!!!! Enjoy!

Growing Together

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There are going to be times where you think you know a woman and times where it seems like you are back at square one.  Women can be very complex and should be treated as such.  There are many factors that can contribute to a woman’s mood that day.  Everyone has their bad days and their good days but we all express how we feel differently.  As a male you have your outlets and so do women.
Women have a need for comfort and a need for love.  It is what drives us, it gives us security when we have both, especially when it comes from our special man in our lives.  There are many different love languages that can be attributed to helping you and the woman you care about connect.  You have to be able to get to know your lover, spouse, or partner.
There are five love languages that can help you and your spouse grow in your relationship. Even if you aren’t in a relationship yet some of these languages can still apply.  There is the love language of touch.  Physical touch is very important.  Most men and women have a sexual relationship, which is a good foundation to establish.  This is an important aspect of a relationship that should be maintained.  It is important that communication is just as strong as your physical relationship. Both of you need to communicate each others needs to one another.  A woman is more interested in the bond and the connection she has with you, not just the physical contact.  That is crucial and really helps build her trust in you.
There is also the love language of giving gifts.  Can’t deny every woman loves receiving gifts from their sweetheart.  It comes with the territory when in a relationship.  It also helps keep the spontaneity in the relationship.  Surprising her once in a while will give her a boost of confidence and self-worth.  This is an act of love that you could show when she is having a bad day.  Knowing your partner is important in all of the love languages, applying all of them can help you build upon and create a good foundation for your relationship.  Figuring out which love language is hers is really important.  It is also good if she connects with yours as well.  That will help you both learn each other and will help you two grow together.
Spending quality time together is a big love language.  It is one that I would apply to any relationship.  You want to grow together and not apart.  In your relationship it is important that you learn to apply some of your partner’s hobbies into your life as she does some of yours.  Share time together even if it is to take a walk in the park or a boat ride on the lake.  Finding time for each other helps you build and connect in the relationship.  You will learn new and amazing things about your partner as you try new things her.
There is the acts of service.  This is where you offer to do something for your spouse like cleaning the kitchen or cooking dinner.  Offering her to rest while you take over shows her in action of how you feel of her well-being.  That gives her a warm-safe feeling that makes her feel secure.  She knows you care for her and that you are there for her.  This one is also important even if it isn’t your love language or hers it still helps you build in the relationship and teaches you both to work together.
The last one is words of affirmation.  This is where you use words like “I love you”, “you are so beautiful”, and “You are amazing.” Words like that are encouraging or uplifting and gives her a confidence boost and makes her feel good about herself and the relationship.  It is important to a woman to know what her partner is feeling.  It is really hard when men don’t express themselves or talk about how they feel to us women.  Communication is crucial to a relationship.  It can’t survive without both partners communicating between each other.
In conclusion all of these love languages should be applied to your relationship even if they aren’t your love language.  It is important to use them to help you both grow together.  This will help you two build and learn to listen to each other.  Every woman and man is different.  You want to make sure you make the best of the relationship.  Applying these to your relationship helps you grow and learn new things about your partner you didn’t know before.  Give them a try and see for yourself.

God is so Great!

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Patience is a hard trait to follow through on, especially when you are eager!  Recently I have been struggling with the ability to be patient.  As my health declines and the grief from my beloved grandfather takes a toll on me my ability to be patient has been tested.  

I am trying to rebuild myself one piece at a time.  Sometimes that’s all you can do!  As God tries us we tend to shut down and sulk.  But God is in control no matter what circumstance you may be facing!  Thank goodness!! God is my rock and foundation and without him I would fall to pieces!!!  God is so Great!!!!! 😊

The Unexpected

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We are always trying to solve problems!  It’s in our nature…right?  Well today I think I got a taste of what it is like to put all the pieces together.  It hurts sometimes to be faced with a problem that you can’t fix.  The problem I am dealing with is a frustrating one too.

I feel as if now I am going to have to take a step back and put a halt to my chaos!  God is truly testing my faith right now and I am hoping I am passing with flying colors considering the circumstances.

Within the midst of the complications I am having to overcome I have seen the beauty and grace of God’s love bloom in my life.  Today when I was going through my testing and I was faced with some complicating choices I realized their is so much to be thankful for.

Life is so easy to let slip away.  I have been forgetting the idea of making memories and just scurries through the day like a chicken with my head cut off!  The unexpected I guess isn’t a bad thing if you look at the good it can bring.  It helps you focus on your priorities and sorts them more accurately than if you had no problems to face.

Always remember life is full of bumps in the road.

Happy Birthday to my other halves!

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Dear Michael and Stephen Warren,

I miss you both dearly and hope you two have an amazing birthday tomorrow.  I am sorry I will not be there to partake in all the fun you two will be having.  Being a triplet is an experience, a joy, a unique bond that can never be broken no matter how far a part we are from each other.  I love you both and want you to know that I will always be here if you ever need me.  Again HAPPY BIRTHDAY you two.

me and my brothers

The Ultimate Gift

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This week I have been at church camp and have been unable to get as much done with my writing. This week has been so rewarding though! Watching young children get saved and commit their lives to the Lord is what it is ALL about!

Today I am going to share with you an experience that happened this week that really touched me.  My daughter Shirley broke down into tears Wednesday night after service.  I questioned her to see what was wrong!  The first thought as a mother you automatically think the worst.  Well she opened up and said ‘Jesus’!  At first I didn’t know how to react, I went on probing her thoughts as any mother would.  She went on to say ‘died for our sins and I’m a sinner’.  Once those words slipped out of her mouth I felt the tears form in my eyes.  I knew then she was grasping the weight of the price Jesus paid for ALL of us.  She was hurting because of the price Jesus paid for her sins, our sins!  It was such a beautiful and touching moment.  She will be six next week and has become aware!  God can convict your heart at any age and at anytime!  This was an eye opener for me because I forget how much our kids pick up and how much they truly understand!!


God sent Jesus to die on the Cross for OUR sins.  He paid the ULTIMATE price!  It is a FREE gift, ALL you have to do is pray and put your TRUST in JESUS!

Taking the Next Step

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Time is not a luxury we can afford to waist.  I didn’t really think about that until recently.  My grandfather, Ted Warren, passed in September of 015.  He was like my dad, he raised me with my Dad and Grandmother, who died when I was nine years old.  Death can creep on you so quickly without warning and I think that is one thing we tend to forget especially children.  They don’t have a care in the world and to be honest I would rather they don’t.  It is good for children to not have to worry about the daily stressors of an adults life.  We live, we learn, and we embrace: that is my motto.

The one gift both my grandmother and grandfather left me was the foundation of salvation.  One gift that is eternal!  If it weren’t for them sharing God’s Word with me I don’t know where I would be or scarier who I would be.  I am so thankful and have a better understanding of why my grandfather gave up everything he had for others.  He was a true example of the person God would want me and you to be.

When we lose someone we tend to get lost in grief (trust me, I know this one too well).  Taking the next step is always the hardest.  We don’t want to always go forward because of the doubts we have in our own lives especially when we lose that person we love.  I am still trying to find my way through the fog of grief.  It can definitely hold its grip and cause bumpy hurdles that make it hard to see the light ahead.  The best advice I can give you is LOVE HARD, EMBRACE THE MOMENT, NEVER LET GO, and PRAY ALWAYS.  Those are what keep me moving forward daily.  I hope that if you are in a state of grief that you are able to see the good around you.  Always know that it does get easier, you never forget, but the pain does ease with time.  Think of the good and embrace the happy memories!! I promise it helps.

A Gift

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I have noticed when working from home that I don’t seem as motivated and am more likely to become distracted. Yep distracted….either by my silly wildcats (joking-not) or my very creative kids find a way to pull this mommy away (which is honestly a great excuse to use).  Balancing home life can be very complicated sometimes especially when it is combined with my work life. Finding that balance is key.  I have decided recently that working after the kids go down to sleep at night has been such a better approach than my ‘I am going to try to work through the Chaos’ method.

I will say recently I have found a greater joy being home with the kids than I ever did before.  For a while I was lost in what I wanted to do with my life.  I felt unsure about every decision I made.  Now since my grandfather passed last September I have found a more meaningful understanding of how precious life is and how often we take life for granted.  I have found out how beautiful motherhood truly is and how blessed I am to be the mother of my four amazing kids!  I want all you wonderful parents out there to know it is a gift to be a parent and an honor that should always be cherished.